{"id":112,"date":"2021-10-08T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-10-08T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stephenfbrown.com\/?p=112"},"modified":"2021-10-08T06:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-10-08T13:00:00","slug":"stop-being-desperate-for-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/index.php\/2021\/10\/08\/stop-being-desperate-for-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Being Desperate for Success"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When you start an online business, you\u2019ll notice that it\u2019s not just the tasks you do that ultimately decide your fate, but the mindset that fuels it. Being driven to succeed is a wonderful trait to possess, but there\u2019s a difference between being driven and being desperate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Desperation is an emotion that can derail even the best efforts to achieve your goals. It often comes cloaked in a disguise of hunger for success, but the motives behind it can be detrimental. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\"><strong>What Does It Mean to Work from a Place of Desperation?<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When the word desperate is used in regards to an entrepreneur, it means someone who is at the end of their rope, in panic mode, worried and \u2026 desperate. It causes massive problems when you approach anything in a state of desperation, whether it\u2019s your business, relationships, health or anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So you need to know how you can put the brakes on your frantic state of mind and calmly and coolly figure out a plan. It\u2019s hard, once the panic sets in, to slow down and find your footing, but once you do, it provides relief that you didn\u2019t know you could experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With online marketing, desperation permeates our industry. We\u2019ve all had bouts of it from time to time, and that\u2019s not a problem. The problem arises when it becomes like quicksand and you can\u2019t escape the feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nothing feels worse than desperation when you\u2019re trying to succeed at something. You feel as if there\u2019s no other choice \u2013 that if what you\u2019re doing doesn\u2019t work, the worst will happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/stephenfbrown.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/colorful-1643273_640.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-833 lazyload\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"570\" height=\"640\" src=\"https:\/\/stephenfbrown.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/colorful-1643273_640.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-833 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/colorful-1643273_640.png 570w, https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/colorful-1643273_640-267x300.png 267w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 570px) 100vw, 570px\" \/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When it hits, its impact can feel like you\u2019re in a movie like Hunger Games \u2013 survival mode. What iffing yourself to death. Everything\u2019s a worst case scenario and you can\u2019t see clearly to make the best decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This feeling usually stems from a need for money, but not always. When it comes to finances, it might be an urgent need, like a medical bill, mortgage payment or unexpected car repair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it might be that you\u2019re just in debt and it\u2019s growing into an uncontrollable monster with interest and penalties. For some, it\u2019s a simple case of their retirement or social security not being enough to make ends meet, so they need supplementation in terms of income.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s great humiliation and embarrassment that comes with being in a state of financial desperation. They\u2019ve overspent or not planned well and need to recover a sense of stability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Biggest Danger of Working While Desperate<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re desperate is when you\u2019re likely to make stupid or unethical mistakes that can haunt you \u2013 in both your personal and professional life. With business, it can take a toll that you never recover from if you\u2019re not careful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about the scenarios that can happen. When you\u2019re desperate for every penny that comes in, you don\u2019t thoroughly think through the decisions you\u2019re about to make \u2013 you only see dollar signs and profit potential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But you have to be careful to consider everything in transactions and tasks that you embark on in this business. If you don\u2019t consider the opposite of what you want to have happen, then you might get blindsided.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can get preyed upon by unscrupulous joint venture partners. There are some in this industry who can smell a desperate newbie from a mile away. Like a shark, they circle around and lure you into their turf so they can devour you financially.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some will make you do all the work, then not pay you what you earned. Others will brainstorm with you (with you providing most of the ideas), then quit on the JV partnership, take your idea and run with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/stephenfbrown.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-834 lazyload\"\/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/stephenfbrown.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-834 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/stephenbrownsblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/woman-6281625_1280.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You were openly sharing because you admired or envied that marketer, seeing their success, and you wanted some of that for yourself. But even the top gurus in this business can suffer from a lack of ethics, so you have to be careful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can also get ripped off by service providers. Some will say they\u2019re going to charge you one price, but end up jacking up the cost of a service at the last minute \u2013 maybe shortly before your launch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They\u2019re basically holding your deliverables hostage, knowing you\u2019re desperate enough to pay it so that you can launch without a hitch. You want to ensure you have plenty of time, word of mouth recommendations, and confidence in the provider so you\u2019re not putting yourself in a vulnerable position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can more easily get scammed by vendors selling courses, tools and coaching. People will tell you to read the fine print, and that\u2019s a great idea. But even fine print can\u2019t protect you in some cases. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Desperation will make you buy things you don\u2019t need. It will make you listen to the phony urgency warnings and make you believe that if you don\u2019t get that product or tool now, you\u2019ll never succeed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are business coaches who will lure you in with a promise for a small investment, then when you have let your guard down, they\u2019ll talk you into mortgaging your home, taking out a big loan, or charging up your credit cards to afford their coaching.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t let this happen to you. You have to shop smart and avoid being desperate when you\u2019re learning this business. There are players in this game eager to capitalize on your desperation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-heading\"><strong>The Other Form of Desperation That Impairs You<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Not everyone is desperate because of immediate financial needs. Some are desperate for purpose. They\u2019re not ready to retire. Or they want to leave a legacy. Some are aging, so the desperation is time based.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having a purpose in life is imperative to many individuals \u2013 especially if they spent most of their lives immersed in a career that didn\u2019t fulfill them personally, or that didn\u2019t provide enough stimulation for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are many forms of desperation that aren\u2019t directly tied to immediate money needs. Sometimes, it\u2019s just a matter of desire. You want to work for yourself and avoid going back to a corporate gig.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you can\u2019t stand working for others, like an irritating boss or coworkers who burden you with some of their unfinished work, then it might light a fire in you to be able to quit that job and work for yourself permanently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It may be that your family doesn\u2019t believe you can do it, so you want to show them that you have what it takes. It has nothing to do with cash needs, but it\u2019s still something that can make you work in a state of desperation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you start to notice you feel panicked when working, or working with a sense of urgency, slow down and make a note of what it is you\u2019re feeling. You want to know what\u2019s driving you in this moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What should be driving you is a desire to achieve your goals, or a desire to help others find the solutions they need, which you can provide either as a vendor or as an affiliate marketer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If it\u2019s something else, like avoiding criticism, paying a bill before something gets cut off, or something else that reeks of desperation, make sure you don\u2019t allow that to infest your decision-making abilities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being desperate brings out the worst in people, not the best, You\u2019d think it would drive people to make good decisions that further their success, but it often does the complete opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Next time around we will look at: Avoiding Learned Helplessness Through Personal Responsibility.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you start an online business, you\u2019ll notice that it\u2019s not just the tasks you do that ultimately decide your fate, but the mindset that fuels it. 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